Should you sleep with a girl on the first date?

Im just wondering as guys always go on about how much they love 'sexually open' girls, girls who are comfortble to have one night stands or casual sex or are forward (or atleast th

Should you sleep with a girl on the first date?

Im just wondering as guys always go on about how much they love 'sexually open' girls, girls who are comfortble to have one night stands or casual sex or are forward (or atleast this is the impression i have got from my boyfriend and his friends) they seem to like women who are forward who will initiate with them and sleep with them.

My boyfriend always jokes that im a bit frigid (he's my first and I cant ever see myself having a casual relationship) I made him wait nearly 5 months before I slept with him, I know some women leave it to the 4th/5th date but thats not what im talking about, Im talking about women who you go on a date with for the first time and that night they sleep with you.

My boyfriend said he'd had loved that he wouldnt have said no, and then a few weeks down the line actually said he wouldnt have made me his girlfriend as he would think I was easy.

Yet I have lots of friends who sleep on the first date and end up with boyfriends so im just wondering if it makes a different to the guys perception of the girl?(Original post by Anonymous)
Im just wondering as guys always go on about how much they love 'sexually open' girls, girls who are comfortble to have one night stands or casual sex or are forward (or atleast this is the impression i have got from my boyfriend and his friends) they seem to like women who are forward who will initiate with them and sleep with them.

My boyfriend always jokes that im a bit frigid (he's my first and I cant ever see myself having a casual relationship) I made him wait nearly 5 months before I slept with him, I know some women leave it to the 4th/5th date but thats not what im talking about, Im talking about women who you go on a date with for the first time and that night they sleep with you.

My boyfriend said he'd had loved that he wouldnt have said no, and then a few weeks down the line actually said he wouldnt have made me his girlfriend as he would think I was easy.

Yet I have lots of friends who sleep on the first date and end up with boyfriends so im just wondering if it makes a different to the guys perception of the girl?first date would be a little fishy

if I was looking at a potential relationship, I'd expect to at least know the person a bit before doing anything, and I doubt you'd get very close after just one date

For a while my view has been that I wouldn't, but it seems hypocritical of me to say that when I'd have been having sex on the first date too. I wouldn't exclusively say it's a rule I make, because I'm sure it's possible for me to fall for someone that I slept with on the first date, but in the past that hasn't been my experience. Most times I've done so, it's killed any attraction. I initially thought I'd developed a lack of respect for the girl, for putting out so early, but I've realised that's not what I've felt. I have no problem with girls being liberated sexually, in fact I like to encourage it if at all possible. I think that when I don't enjoy sex because of the lack of emotion, that's what makes me feel bad, and I try to believe it's their fault for putting out that early, when that's not actually the problem.

I guess what I'm saying is, if there's a real connection there and you enjoy the sex for more than just the physical side of it, it's totally possible that I'd get in a relationship with a girl I sexed on the first date. If we don't connect at all, I just can't stay attracted and so a relationship is out of the question.Personally, the only thing it would really change is how quickly I decided we were sexually compatible.

I've had 2 reasonably long term girl friends, one of them I slept with on the second night we met up (note: we started DATING after this) and one where we slept together after about 2 months. The first relationship lasted longer, and it never even really entered my mind that she was 'easy' or a '****' or whatever other insults internet warriors want to say. It later turned out that I was actually her first, which I did think was a bit weird, but she basically explained it away as her knowing that I was the right guy, which I guess I kind of was since we were together for nearly a year.

Second girl we were together for about another 2 months after that. The relationship broke down for other reasons, but again, I was her first and although it was the same with the first girl, we didn't have that 'spark', if you get me. Personally, it wouldn't affect my opinion of them at all, and, like I've said, if anything (assuming I knew the girl at least somewhat well beforehand, i.e, mutual friends etc) it would probably lead to the development of a relationship sooner than if not.

We're young and care-free. Trying before you buy is important.(Original post by Anonymous)
Im just wondering as guys always go on about how much they love 'sexually open' girls, girls who are comfortble to have one night stands or casual sex or are forward (or atleast this is the impression i have got from my boyfriend and his friends) they seem to like women who are forward who will initiate with them and sleep with them.

My boyfriend always jokes that im a bit frigid (he's my first and I cant ever see myself having a casual relationship) I made him wait nearly 5 months before I slept with him, I know some women leave it to the 4th/5th date but thats not what im talking about, Im talking about women who you go on a date with for the first time and that night they sleep with you.

My boyfriend said he'd had loved that he wouldnt have said no, and then a few weeks down the line actually said he wouldnt have made me his girlfriend as he would think I was easy.

Yet I have lots of friends who sleep on the first date and end up with boyfriends so im just wondering if it makes a different to the guys perception of the girl?It would have a positive impact on my perception of her, as if I enjoyed it then it would indicate good things for the future, I don't have the double standard that its ok for me to sleep with her on the first date but its not ok for her. I wouldn't necessarily make her my girlfriend but I'd almost definitely try to ask her out again and if after a few dates we still get on I'd think about it, the same way with any girl sex or no sexI always wait until I know the girl well enough and can see myself in a long term relationship before sleeping with her. I've only slept with one person, but I did want to spend the rest of my life with that person and probably marry them (or so I thought at the time). We waited a year to sleep together and I don't regret that decision, as I don't like the idea casual relationships, ONS's etc. (I can't just give away my body like that to someone I don't know, who I don't trust!). Anyway she is now my ex as we broke up.

If anything if I had a 'sexually open' girl as my girlfriend I'd probably get even more protective of her than I am with any other girlfriend because if she's willing to sleep with someone after the first date, what's to stop her doing it to someone else? I mean yes you have to trust her and everything, but can you really trust her enough after one date not to do that? To me, I can't trust someone that much after one date, it normally takes 6 months at least (and even then I don't trust them properly - but I have trust issues okay).

So to sum up, I wouldn't make her my girlfriend yet, I'd try to by doing the obvious things to do so (staying in contact if she wants to etc.) but it would take some more dates before I'd say she's my girlfriend.

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